There may be times when we're looking at the people around us and think they have the perfect life. That may be true, but chances are that most people are having some sort of familial crisis. Whether it's losing a close relative, divorce between parents (or their own divorce), addictions, marriages, births, etc., the list goes on. Growing up, I always thought my family would be perfect, like there was nothing that could bring us apart and it was a fairytale ending (the good kind). That didn't happen though.
I was only 8 years old when my parents were officially divorced. I say officially because they were separated for some time before that. I remember how tough that was on the family. I got the sense that there were some feelings of betrayal between my siblings and my dad. Me, being the youngest, I didn't quite understand what was happening, but I knew I still loved my dad. When the divorce was official, my mom got custody of the kids, at least, those of us who were under 18 and still living at home. After this crisis in my family, I saw it then and I still see it now. While this event drove a wedge between my siblings relationship with my dad, it definitely brought our relationship with our mom a whole lot closer. After my siblings left the house, I was the only child left at home. My mom was pretty much my best friend for a while. Spending all the time that I did with her made me come to appreciate and love her more
I love my family, even after everything we've been through. I wouldn't say this was a traumatic experience, I would say that it has actually helped me become the person I am today. And I can only pray and wish that I won't go through the same thing with my own family.
Until next time:)